Obituary of Timothy J. Coyle

Irondequoit: Tim passed in the early hours of Monday morning, November 20th, peacefully, in the same spot in his living room that he has often occupied for the past two + years while battling lung cancer. Predeceased by his parents, Thomas and Josephine “Peppy”; brother, Kevin;and nephew Michael Coyle. He is survived by his son, Timothy Coyle; siblings, Kathleen Rogers, Thomas (Janet) Coyle, Michael Coyle, Bryan (Cindy) Coyle and Lori (Matt) DiRisio; many nieces and nephews, and great nieces and nephews.

Tim was a model of how to behave when you’re diagnosed with a terminal illness. He was courageous and grateful. When he felt well enough, he’d bang around in his champagne colored Ford “monster truck” (which he loved), dropping by to visit friends and family, as Tim had done his entire life. He liked personal contact, via telephone or an in-person visit. He preferred his home phone over his cell phone, and never sent a text. He literally did not text.

He spent his working life as a Tool and Die guy (technically, a toolmaker), after graduating from Edison Technical School in 1981. He liked to spend his time with others, laughing and enjoying time together, and had a strong sense of loyalty to his people. He was fiercely loyal.

He loved sports; playing them and watching them too. In his youth, it was baseball, basketball, football and bowling. He bowled in many leagues over the course of his life and had multiple 300 games and 800 series to notch his belt. He was also an avid golfer who loved the game, and his golf buddies, and talked about it and them often.

It would be negligent not to mention how thick Tim’s skull was. His head was like a rock, and he was one of the most stubborn men you could encounter. He was opinionated and had a strong sense of right and wrong, and if he thought you were wrong, you knew it. In health, he was proud and responsible, and took care of himself and his family. More recently, he mellowed a lot. He allowed his family and friends to do things for him, and he was always so thankful for any small kindness paid to him. He made it easy to want to do nice things for him.

Tim loved cars, especially luxury cars, and could name the make, model, color and tiny details about cars he or his buddies drove from 40 years ago. His memory was incredible, for names, faces, football facts, you name it. Though his needs were simple, he was not. He was super smart and just knew a lot of stuff about a lot of stuff.

He loved music and attended concerts and live music events all the time in his younger years. Later in life, he enjoyed just taking a long ride in his vehicle with the music of his choice playing. His first choice would likely be classic rock, but it wouldn’t be strange to here Aretha Franklin or Tina Turner coming out of his speakers either. 

Anyone who knew “Moose”, knew he loved to EAT. He loved food and drink of all kinds, but especially a good burger. He was definitely a meat lover. And chocolate. He could down a bag of Hershey Kisses with no problem, or a half gallon of chocolate milk.

Tim liked consistency and routine. He was just a regular “old school” guy with a strong work ethic, and strong sense of family; his son Tim being his wingman and sidekick until he was in his early teens. Where big Tim was, little Tim was back in those days. He was extremely nostalgic and liked to reminisce about events from the past and laugh at the crazy situations he found himself in, and the people he experienced them with. Tim was about having fun experiences that put a smile on his face, with the people he enjoyed the most. Again, Tim found joy in simple things; a beer, cup of coffee, picnic, or just a drop-in visit, but always with friends and family. Tim’s zest for life, his beaming smile and his infectious laugh will be missed so much by all those who knew him. Godspeed Tim. Until we see each other again. 

His family will receive friends Monday, November 27, 4-8pm at the funeral home (570 Kings Highway So.). Friends are invited to meet the family Tuesday, November 28, 10:00 am at St. Kateri at Christ the King Church for his Memorial Mass. Interment Holy Sepulchre Cemetery.